BIRTHFIT Podcast Episode 101 Featuring Nicole Schneider, Founder and CEO of Global NLP Training
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Hello, BIRTHFIT, this is your founder, Dr. Lindsey Mathews. Today I have a special episode. They’re all special but this one is close to my heart. Today I have Nicole Schneider. She’s the founder and owner of Global NLP Training. If you’ve listened to me, heard my story, allowed me to get a little vulnerable with you then you know that I basically took a deep dive into NLP Training, and it helped me back whenever I was going through some of the darkest days of my life, trying to dig myself out of that rock bottom and ever since then, I had told myself I was going to become an NLP practitioner. So recently I took all of the training, basically everything I could with Global NLP, and Nikkie Schneider was my teacher.
She is a legend. She is, by far, one of the most talented humans in the communication department. So I want you to approach this episode with an open heart, open mind, and if you are at all interested in NLP, I strongly encourage you to check it out, it’s globalnlptraining.com, and definitely take anything Nikkie is offering because it will change your life. She’s brilliant at what she does. So enjoy this episode.
This is Nikkie Schneider. Thanks for coming or being on the show, Nikkie.
Nikkie: Yeah, thanks so much for inviting me to join your podcast all the way from Amsterdam.
Lindsey: Yeah, so you’re in Amsterdam right now.
Nikkie: I am but I’m in LA next week and two weeks ago I was in Bali. So I do travel a lot for my work but it’s not like work, it’s just having fun teaching.
Lindsey: Is this your dream life you’re living right now?
Nikkie: I am. Absolutely, yeah, and it took me lots of roads and forks in the roads and a lot of bruises and falls to figure that out. Once I fell really hard, I decided, you know what, I cannot go back to my old life and let’s build, not let’s build my dream. That was actually not it. It was more about let’s build a company where I can lead a life according to my values and my purpose and meaning that I feel I have, which is teaching tools how to use your brain in transformation, but at the same time, create a company that I love working in. A lot of people don’t do that. I’ve had some coaching clients who actually build their own business and then they come to me for coaching because they don’t like their own business, which is [0:09:53] [Indiscernible]. Right?
Nikkie: I basically created the company and like, okay, where would I like to work? So that’s how I picked my locations, that’s how I created Global NLP Training, the program, and also everybody that works within my team which is an amazing team, are the kind of people that if you’re in a job that you don’t like, let’s say, and you start fantasizing about what type of people and what kind of clients you would like to have and what type of people you work with, I’ve got that. That’s, in a sense, very deliberate in terms of really having a thought-about, what is it that I want to create and put out there, and who would I like to have in my environment on a day-to-day basis, if that makes sense.
Lindsey: Yeah, heck, yeah. For those listening, can you explain what Global NLP Training is?
Nikkie: Yeah, sure I can. Well let me first go into what NLP is, right?
Nikkie: Well it’s not easy to explain, but I’ll do the best job that I can. I sometimes say when you put 20 NLP people into one room, they all give a different definition. I always joke around and say there’s probably 21 definitions because there may be someone with a multiple personality disorder. NLP, it’s inherently a toolbox. It’s a tool set, and where that comes from is that there were a group of people in the ’60s and ’70s who found a way to ask questions where you can make what unconsciously is going on, conscious.
It’s not really hocus pocus. It’s more about, when you ask someone who has mastery in something, how they do things, and you don’t ask it the right way, they will give very vague answers, like, well I can just do it. But when you ask in a certain way where you can really tap into what they’re doing inside their brain, how are they using their brain, then you can get on the table as to how specifically that is done.
The first thing they did is they created, like, how do you ask questions? That was the first thing. Then the second thing was they started to interview people, like, how do you become a great communicator or rapport-builder? Then that launched into how do you set goals in a way that you reach them? Because traditional ways of goal-setting are really about conscious mind goal setting and the date and all that stuff, which works great for some people but it’s usually your unconscious mind that causes the procrastination and the fears and the things that are underneath the surface that hold you back in terms of habits, thoughts and beliefs about yourself, and we all have them.
So they actually interviewed people who set goals in a way that that is also dealt with. Then you even go into, well if you can find someone who fix their own phobia, well how do they do that, or how to deal with a negative emotion in your past, or anxiety. All those things that are relevant for anyone who wants to use communication but also anyone who wants to learn how to use their brain to function better in their life or in their work, whether it’s around conflicts, about motivation or resolving fears or building confidence or all these things, this whole tool set starts to emerge and when you combine these different tools, you can use them for very different things.
So that’s a study of excellence, though I think of the word excellence almost sounds like marketing, but it is definitely a study of mastery, of [0:14:36] [Indiscernible] trial and error, and get to form habits that are really — like most of the time we’re stuck in our own habits and we keep doing things the same way and we’re not aware of another option. But when somebody has figured out that other option through falling and learning, because we’re learners, then you can tap into how they used their brain and then say, “Oh, wait a minute, I never considered that option.”
You leverage that and you light up the brain, you light up the neural pathways inside the brain in a way that you start to activate entirely different parts of your brain. If you do that enough, which is what leads me to Global NLP Training, is that I intentionally run an immersion style version of this class. Technically there are two parts. There’s the seven-day NLP Practitioner and then a nine-day NLP Master Practitioner. People can book them separate but I like to do them back-to-back if people want to come for that, and most people do.
You actually have the opportunity to create an immersion version of learning not just the NLP tools like you can do with other companies as well, but to actually, through experiential exercises, which means learning by doing, like a child learns, when a child learns how to walk, I’ll give them a PowerPoint presentation, a child starts to imitate, starts to watch others, starts to practice, learn figure things out through play, and that’s in an environment that I intentionally created in terms of the design of it, for people to have the opportunity that next to learning the tools, to also create a trajectory for themselves to really change, to actually change the brain even on some level because we have neuroplasticity.
So being bombarded for 16 days of going through problems and solution, from negative to positive, negative to positive, problem to solution, other way of looking at this. This is another filter that you can use in which you start to notice different things in your world or help someone else to achieve that. That’s the aim of the course is that even though it’s an NLP and a life coach training and a motivational coach training, it actually has a double design to it, that you actually learn these tools by going into the process yourself as well. That’s the magic.
I cannot take the credit necessarily as the designer, as the teacher but because everything is experiential, it’s actually the whole group as a whole that creates this propulsion point of making it all happen. I should be asking you what your experience with that is because you’re one of my students, but that’s the underlying idea to it.
I think that as a teacher, I use these tools to change my own life. I used to be morbidly obese, I used to have chronic fatigue syndrome which was said to be incurable, and I used it to change my own life, to change my own career, to change almost everything about myself to become who I actually am rather than what I thought I should be, if that makes sense at all. That capability, I believe that everybody can do that but the problem is we’re not taught by our parents or by our teachers or by the adults in our childhood, how to actually use our brains because they’ve never learned how to do that either.
The amazing thing is that there’s a lot of scientific base now coming into NLP, and that comes from the world of positive psychology which is a new form of psychology that is literally blowing any other psychology out of the water in terms of scientific research for things like depression and success. Because people used to believe that if you’re successful then you’ll be happy, it’s actually the other way around. So that scientific research is cool because when I look at positive psychology books, I see a huge overlap with NLP and that’s exciting.
It’s the right time for a lot of people to understand how their brain works so you don’t allow an external party or even the government to start influencing this and to follow your own trajectory instead.
Lindsey: How were you first exposed to this?
Nikkie: Well I was first exposed to this actually because of labeling, to be honest. I had this really cool label when I was younger that I had dyslexia and ADHD, and my mom was like, “Do not tell her.” This was before Google because I’m that old, but my mom was like, “Do not label her because then she thinks that something is wrong,” so she’s like, no, no, no, no. It also didn’t make sense to my mom, and my mom is an immigrant and is not necessarily exposed to tools of neuroscience.
She was like, this doesn’t make sense because I think my daughter is hugely intelligent and an amazing learner, but the teachers are saying that she’s not. So my mother started to think, well maybe there’s something wrong with the teachers and schooling system who are so ready to label my daughter. So she insisted at some point for me to be sent for psychological testing in terms of learning abilities, and they actually found that, how do I say this politely and in humility, opposite of stupid, let’s say.
Nikkie: Yeah, and I had actually an extraordinary capability for acquiring languages and for listening. You probably realized that English is not my first language, not at all. I didn’t learn to speak English until I was about 14 years old, but I have a fairly good command of it so I cannot be that broken, right?
Nikkie: So she wanted to send me somewhere, with the limited means that we had, for me to learn how to learn or how to use my own brain. I didn’t want to because you’re a teenager, here we go again, right? So I wanted to have an easy cop-out and I said, “Well what if I just bought a book and if I was successful and my grades go up, would that be okay?” She says, “Fine, whatever.” She thought, let my daughter be the rebel, at least she’s reading something that she’s interested in, thank God she wants to read.
So I found this book in a bookstore which was claiming that it could teach you how to memorize the phone book, and that is actually what — we had phone books then. I thought, well that’s pretty cool because if I can memorize a phone book, I can memorize anything, and it will teach me even how to speed read and whatever. That was the excitement in my young brain of learning how to do that because who would say, “No,” to superpowers?
The book talked about visual, auditory and kinesthetic ways of learning, how, depending on how brains are wired and are filtered or set up, determines how we learn. Unfortunately our school system is not really leveraging that at all. Especially there’s a problem not just within the school system but in the training of our teachers, but also if your teacher is not using the same way of learning as you do then you really have a problem.
So I did that book which was about 70% NLP and my grades went up like crazy, literally, overnight. I literally got superpowers. Then when I was studying for a year at the University of Minnesota and I wasn’t allowed to study in my actual field of study at the time, I could do anything I wanted. I had the belief at the time, excuse me and I apologize already for saying it, that Americans are culturally stupid. I wanted to take it upon myself to educate America.
Lindsey: Just the whole country.
Nikkie: Yeah, I know, just that, so what I sorted out was for me to teach children and teenagers about Dutch culture and intercultural communication. So I started to take college classes around Psychology and that’s how I stumbled into an NLP training at some point. I looked at it based on my young age, more about how can I use this to leverage a leadership position and use it for communication in the business world, but set until I found myself on the bathroom floor with a high-ranking corporate job, that I found myself on the bathroom floor and I was like, okay, I need to start using these tools to [0:25:48] [Indiscernible] morbid obesity and to become better with this physical as well as mental illness. That’s where this whole new world of NLP started to unfold for me, what the power is when you use it as a transformation tool, so that’s the story.
Lindsey: Yeah, it’s pretty powerful. You definitely mentioned that you had NLP or you started to use it again basically when you hit your rock bottom. I would say the same for me too. It’s like, okay, here are these tools. I had somebody guiding me because I didn’t know what I was doing. I was explaining this to somebody the other day and trying to explain or give a definition of NLP, like you mentioned earlier, and I was telling them, it’s like exercise or reps for your brain and it’s really hard to see. You really have to be in action around what your values are, and that’s really hard for some people.
Nikkie: Well we have so many limitations because first of all, we’re dealing with the chains of the raising of our parents and the expectations of society and then throw in a little bit of brokenness that causes us to have a lot of beliefs about ourselves in the way that we learn and what we can and cannot do. So there’s a lot of stuff to remove, we think, and then usually for the many things that we often go through, we think that we need to spend 20 years with a psychologist or something like that and then maybe a whole new education or whatever we think about ourselves that we need to do.
But the brain actually learns super fast and so, hey, you actually can change your brain really fast. You actually can learn tools by which you can really dig into yourself not by focusing on where your problems really are and spend hours on that, it’s more how can we turn these problems in a different way of telling the brain to find solutions quick?
For instance, a phobia is one example. People would think, well I need to spend 20 years, 20 hours and then slowly being exposed to spiders to fix it, which is a constant pain impulse. Well that’s true if your method is about studying people who have a phobia because then you understand how a phobia works really well, but the people in the world of NLP have a whole other approach. Why not study the people who actually fixed the phobia? That’s more interesting. How did they do that?
Well you’ve seen me do it but you’ve also seen me teach it to people who then, 15 minutes after I demonstrate out, are doing the same thing to the other people in class. Phobias are often installed sometimes at such a young age that we don’t remember in a split second and you never forget to have the phobia. So that idea that a phobia takes a long time to fix, well that’s not how the brain learns. If the installation is that quick then the solution to learn the opposite, shouldn’t that also be very quick.
It’s not creating a McDonald’s version of psychology, not at all. It’s a whole other approach. It’s really about, okay, so now let’s teach the brain something new very quickly. So typically, for me to fix a phobia, takes anywhere between eight to 15 minutes and I have, based on the standard execution, a 95% success rate. Based on if I have to do additional work, I’m actually close to reaching 100% track record as a person [0:30:15] [Indiscernible] phobia. If I translate that to, let’s say, a post-traumatic stress disorder, which is not something I would truly teach in class because you, [0:30:23] [Indiscernible], but you need a lot of experience for that.
Lindsey: Right, I remember you talking about that.
Nikkie: You technically know the tools but you don’t know how to put them together yet to reach at that level, and I intentionally don’t teach that because you need to figure that out and then when you figure it out, which is not that hard, you can do it too. I’ve trained, let’s say, [0:30:46] [Indiscernible] of the United States Armed Forces to treat the therapists to work with this type of stuff because also, a post-traumatic stress disorder situation can be fixed in about 45 minutes or so.
That’s just one example then how do you apply it to things like goals or lack of confidence or low self-esteem, or how do you even launch that into, let’s say you have to give a motivational speech to an employee, those tools can translate into just about any arena where the brain is used which is everywhere. When you think about it, let’s say you have a family issue and you have a fight, how accurate are your thoughts really? [0:31:39] [Indiscernible] testing at that moment in time really correct. I mean, first of all, are you listening? That’s one question. Are you pulling in your past experiences which is not necessarily fair in the moment, and are you having emotional hot buttons and making a lot of assumptions?
There’s a ton of stuff happening in the brain when it’s fight or flight. How can you change that? That is, on the neurological level, actually approaching your emotions and your thoughts in a different order and in a different way so then you start paying attention to not just the right things but to use the brain in the right way and using the communication in a way that it also can land in the other person’s map of the world. You start to have these results in the way that you operate within communication as well, if that makes sense.
Lindsey: 100%, yeah.
Nikkie: That’s exciting because it’s almost like teaching a course of how do you create your own electricity inside the brain so that you can use it every way you want, to use your computer, to use your hair dryer, whatever, metaphorically speaking. It’s exciting because one of the things that I love about NLP and about the training is that there are students that are super smart and highly evolved and either having a high IQ or a high EQ, and there are students that don’t necessarily have that level of awareness and wisdom but because this is about the brain and we all have a brain, that everybody walks out, and with that I can say, everybody who really applies themselves, walks out on a higher evolutionary plane and skill set than when they came in, in their own way.
Lindsey: Oh, for sure, I would agree, after that immersion for two weeks.
Nikkie: Yeah, and it’s almost like you have the Breakfast Club there too, right, when we had, let’s say, a man of God, a priest, I don’t remember if it was Catholic, and we had you in there and this all whole other thing, and we had a 19-year-old who was struggling with life before college. We had someone who works on astrology and then we had some serious business people and nonviolent communication specialists. We had just about the whole Breakfast Club there.
Nikkie: In this case, the Breakfast Club of indeed, like the Breakfast Club, some of the people that may be completely rejected by society and honor people who are admired by society but when you dig under the surface, we all have the same problems.
Lindsey: Yeah, for sure, for sure.
Nikkie: That’s cool because the borders between people go away.
Lindsey: Yeah, they’re dropped.
Nikkie: They’re dropped because your resume becomes irrelevant, so I love that fairness. You [0:35:09] [Indiscernible] college, so what? You didn’t go to college. Well, so what? Are you positive? Are you optimistic? Are you empowering anyone? Are you happy? Those are the real questions.
Lindsey: Yeah, it’s so true. I’m glad you gave those examples earlier because I was going to ask about them, but do you mind elaborating a little bit on people’s source and how they can get to that? Because I think that was huge in the class, determining who your source, that ultimate state, that Higher Being.
Nikkie: Right. Okay, so what may be a good idea for the listeners is to draw out a piece of paper and draw a pyramid-type shape, a triangle, and at the bottom of this, what do you call it, the long side, the bottom, at the bottom, the first part is the environment. That’s where we are, who our friends are, where we go everyday, what we literally could touch, see, hear, feel. Above that is the next part which is our behavior and how we act, our good and our bad behaviors and in relation to others.
Above that are our skills. What have you learned through life and study and practicing? What do we know and what are our skills? Then above that are our values, and not the ones that have been drilled into us through religion or something like that, no, really the foundation we stand on and often super unconscious. Then above that we have who am I, and above that we have source. So at the top of the pyramid we have source.
Now here’s the challenge. Any change in a higher level of this pyramid will trickle down, will effect — let’s say you have a massive shift in source. It’s going to affect your behavior. And any changes in the lower part of this pyramid, like your change of behavior, you learn a new skill, it may trickle up. Now, so we can say, well let’s go to a mountain in India and I’m going to have, by next week, I’m going to be enlightened, have a massive shift in source. Well, that’s great, but you may need a little help on achieving that.
So what’s the thing? If you look at that in that way, it’s like if you consider where you are broken, let’s say, is where at some point in your life, and especially before age seven this starts already appearing because then we have the most capacity for learning before age seven because we’re little unconscious minds running around, soaking up a lot of information, where we’re broken is inherently things that we’ve learned. It’s not optimal learning, it’s like learning how to be broken, how to have certain beliefs or weird patterns [0:38:49] [Indiscernible]. That’s where we have disconnected from source, if that makes sense.
So what we want is to connect back into source. Well there are two ways of going about that. You could say, “Well let’s go back to that moment in installation and do some — not therapy because I’m not a therapist, I have a Psychology degree. It’s about going back and changing your program and your filter and the way that you look at it. Not erase the memory, I’m not into that hocus pocus, but more like how do we change our brain around this, the way that you look at it and the way that you experience it.
That change and shift can connect you back to source but depending on how many issues you have and how broken you are, that could be multiple coaching sessions, or maybe so many that — that’s why you often see when people go to certain rehab places or whatever, they get a lot of exercises but most people need to go back to rehab seven times.
Even though the concept of source is introduced in many places, well in those places, they’re not teaching you how to connect with source. There’s a disconnect there. They mention source but how? You can also understand how brain coding and communication works. You can actually, through language, connect someone to be at this place of source for a moment. You’re still present, I worked with some of your team members on this, you’re still present, you can get up, you can go to the bathroom. It’s not like I’m sitting there doing some weird stuff, well not at all.
It’s your brain. Your conscious mind is completely present as well. It’s completely logical, but it’s also unconscious. It’s very grounded because I don’t do hocus pocus. I am Dutch. But then if you step someone into that source, you can use that concept, they could then also go back to the past to fix some of this stuff or to go to the future where maybe your propulsion system is, in terms of the solution, in the future. It can be in the past. It can also be in the present.
That process allows you to integrate any place where you have a big issue or even, let’s say, you have an inner conflict. With that, I mean, as an inner conflict, could be part of me wants to start my own business and leave my life of passion, but the other part of me is afraid of not having enough finances because I need security too, [0:42:05] [Indiscernible] those two things. Well the only way that you can marry it is by finding out what’s behind this, what do you get, on a deep level, what do you get out of staying where you are and honor it as a positive thing, leads to security, leads to protection, leads to maybe things like balance, could lead to peace, et cetera.
On the other side there’s passion. Passion leads to freedom, and freedom then also leads to peace. Hey, wait a minute, peace on both sides. So both parts of us, in the end, really want to have and ultimately want to have peace, and that’s why our disconnect from source, let’s say we call peace here — it could be anything. You can call it anything. Some people call it God or the universe or peace or love or whatever.
The answers are, first of all, understand what’s happening on both sides and understand that you need to honor what’s really underneath it and whatever your choice is [0:43:14] [Indiscernible]. You can also leverage that space of peace to actually facilitate in that resolution of that inner conflict so that you can either choose option A or B, but understand when you do option of staying where you are, you need to have those feelings of freedom and passion somehow in there. Or if you choose to start your new business, then you need to do it in a way where you also have security.
That understanding goes, wait a minute, if I just go, hey, let’s spend all my money on my new business and go crazy and do stupid stuff then I’m going to be homeless. That’s a little bit legitimate concern. Well then maybe you should build your business but also understand there are other values that need to be met at the same time and then how do you get there. Those are the different ways that this concept, source, can be leveraged. In this place where, what are the positive intents leading up to that, is on that values level. You’re in the business of creating new moms.
Lindsey: I like how you said that, creating new moms.
Nikkie: Yeah, and I think that that’s the new science piece because a lot of us are broken because of our moms, dad, and they are right away, in defense of our mom and dads, they are broken because of their moms and dads.
Lindsey: That’s a whole big circle.
Nikkie: So we can blame, eventually, our priests or our great, great grandparents in the past for all of our issues but you can repeat, unconsciously, the same patterns as your own parents. Or are you going to say, “Hey, how do I change my brain? How do I learn these tools? Also, what are the values that I want to install on my child?” You do not do that by saying. Your child learns the values of noticing what you are doing.
Are you compassionate? How do you deal with arguments? How do you treat your significant other? What is it that you say to your child? Sometimes the smallest things that you could say to your child, like, I think you’re a little chubby, can cause a massive installation. But if you understand how that all works and you resolve that within yourself then you get into a place where you can raise your child to become the upgraded 2.0 version of you and then you break the cycle.
I always kid around and say, first of all, all teenagers should mandatory take NLP training because it saves a lot of time and second of all, I think that for new parents, new moms, I think that NLP training should also be mandatory. As part of the rule, if you want to have this baby come out of you, then you must do this training before you do. First of all, it will also make the birthing process a lot easier because that’s why you were in my training, but it’s also because there’s such a huge opportunity there.
Lindsey: Oh, it’s, yeah, huge.
Nikkie: I think for many, some people are saying, “Who is your favorite client? Because you deal with celebrities, you deal with top celebrities and religious leaders and God knows what else. Who is your favorite client?” For me, very simply, people who take the course for no other reason than wanting to be a better parent. That, to me, is like, yes, because if you want to talk about making the world a better place and enjoying a millennial or whatever, it’s not about the child, it’s about the parent.
I think that there’s exciting opportunity for parents to understand, well how am I using my brain? Now if I use my own brain better, how can I raise this child that truly, in every way, has all the opportunities to become a happy human being and a well-integrated human being, instead of someone’s future, bitchy ex-wife or my husband who, whatever, and become happy and integrated individuals.
Currently in the United States also, there are so many awful things happening with the school shootings and then you hear what’s happening to these kids. It’s absolutely terrifying that these things are not identified, and mental illness aside, but these are things that need to be already be taken care of by parents, not when they’re teenagers and they’re shooting. These things should already be installed the moment that these children are born so that they never become bullies, that they never become a victim, that they learn what resilience is, they know what compassion is, they know how to talk during an argument, how to go from angry to not angry, those, how do you behave, how do you motivate yourself, all those.
Lindsey: Communicate, yeah.
Nikkie: How do you do all that stuff? How do you become a better listener or a better speaker? I think that that starts, really, that installation, that didn’t happen when these shooters were teenagers. That happened —
Lindsey: Way before.
Nikkie: — before they were seven years old.
Lindsey: Yeah, it’s so powerful.
Lindsey: Okay, I have to let you go soon, but I’m definitely coming by to say, “Hello,” next week.
Nikkie: Yeah, [0:50:17] [Indiscernible] personality typing or emotional intelligence or your favorite day, whichever day that was, maybe the [0:50:25] [Indiscernible].
Lindsey: The most powerful day was the one where I was the student and you were my practitioner. I will come on that day.
Nikkie: Okay, just let me know and I’ll tell you and remind you on exactly what day of the week that was.
Lindsey: Awesome. Where can people find more information about your company? What’s your website?
Nikkie: The best place to go to is our website which is at www.globalnlptraining.com, and that brings you to the website of course. It also has a jumping off point to our YouTube channel, to our blog. You can also download an Android or iPhone app that, I like to give a lot of information away for free and how to use this stuff, so that’s also all over there. So there are lots of resources but of course also information about the training itself and what locations we give it. In terms of Los Angeles, I don’t know if most of your listeners are in Los Angeles.
Lindsey: They’re all over, all over.
Nikkie: Yeah, because we consistently sold out five trainings in a row and I’m about to go to, I think, a training, it’s already sold out or it’s on its last seats, Saturday next week. I’m actually looking into organizing another training, September 2018, but as I’m still looking for a venue and things like that, I will make that decision in a couple of weeks. So it will be good to email us if anyone in Los Angeles is interested, at firstname.lastname@example.org, so that we can keep you informed about those dates as well, unless you want to go hang out with me in Bali or in Amsterdam or something like that.
Lindsey: Not terrible places.
Nikkie: No, somebody has got to do it, right?
Lindsey: Yeah, yeah. Well I’m so glad I got to chat with you. I’ve certainly missed you and Ann and everybody else in class. I wish we could hang out with the Breakfast Club forever.
Nikkie: Yeah, we should meet next week because I believe that I promised to you to also connect about some brainstorming, internal Nikkie dialogue around how could you use this for BIRTHFIT, right?
Lindsey: Yes, I’ve got a thousand questions down that path.
Nikkie: Okay, sounds good to me [0:53:11] [Indiscernible].
Lindsey: I will. Well, Nikkie, enjoy your day, tell Ann, hello.
Nikkie: I will.
Lindsey: I’ll connect with you all about next week.
Nikkie: Okay, thank you so much.
Lindsey: All right, bye.
Lindsey: All right, BIRTHFIT community, listeners, everybody, I hope you enjoyed that episode. I literally could talk to Nikkie forever, but I didn’t want to give away all her secrets and all my stories and everything in between, yeah, and we’re also cut for time. The Global NLP Training is, like I said before, it is something that I wish everybody could do, and they will definitely benefit from. Just like Nikkie said, if you are a parent or a soon-to-be mom or thinking about getting pregnant, mom, dad, partners, whoever, this is totally worth your time.
If all you do, your main objective to take the course is to become a better parent, you are, by far, making this world a better place compared to anything else anybody else is doing in this world, and that’s a very, very noble thing. So go to globalnlptraining.com, check out all the free videos, get a glimpse of the training structure and sign up. If you are thinking about taking the training in Los Angeles in September then I would email them and get some info on that as far as the dates. You can stay in an Airbnb in Venice. Hopefully I’ll be around because I love saying, “Hi,” to Nikkie and Ann and whoever is involved.
The tools that you gain from this class will transfer over into other aspects of life. This is why I love teaching our BIRTHFIT Prenatal series is because there are little NLP exercises, experiences within this birth education course, and I just taught one this past weekend in Austin. Not only the moms but the partners loved it. They were like, “What are you doing? This is awesome.” I told them, “This is like a glimpse into NLP. If you want more, check this out.” They’re like, “Oh, I’m sold. I love NLP.”
So definitely check it out, globalnlptraining.com, and when you show up to a training, be sure to give Nikkie a hug for me. All right, thanks, everybody.
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